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Profiles....
Do you put your best foot forward, or do you stumble in those heels?
by Dixie
I am the moderator of a very active Yahoo group, A Crossdressers Secret Garden, which gets between 20-25 new members wanting to join each day. The group membership is moderated, therefore I must approve all memberships to the group. It really surprises (maybe shocks me, would be more appropriate) the number of 'ladies' with down right raunchy profiles out there.
What surprises me most is the group is essentially for crossdressers and their wives, and is there to help those that are wanting to 'come out' to their wives, as well as being there to help wives that just found out about their husbands crossdressing. Those joining the group know the purpose of the group from the get go. The rules are outlined on the home page in very easy to understand language, 'Mom' as I'm known in the group, runs a very clean, strict and no BS group. Yet, it still amazes me each day the number of 'ladies' joining who are saying they are looking for help to let their wives know about 'Alice' and sound very sincere about it. Then.......... BAM I open their profile and who do I see but Mr. Winky staring me in the face!
Just imagine for a moment, your wife does not know you are a crossdresser, but stumbles across an email addressed to alicecdho4u@yahoo.com, or alicecdslut4u@tglife.com, or any of the other sites where profiles are prominent , she then goes to the site and looks up your profile, (whose ID gave her a shock to begin with!), only to see the following:
1. Mr. Winky, whom she has known all her married life staring her in the face for all the world to see.
2. She reads your 'marital status' as being 'married but looking'
3. She reads your 'occupation' as being a 'slut whore'
4. She reads your 'hobbies' as being very descriptive in the types of 'activities' you want to engage in (you know what I mean!)
5. She reads your 'latest news' as having actually engaged in those activities (either real or imaginary!)
Sitting there in shock, she garners up the courage to look into the photo album on your profile, only to go into a complete tail spin....at this point scared to death with all types of thoughts going on in her head, and the ONLY person she could talk to is YOU, ……. but wait....that WAS you! Now what does she do?
Let's say for example, you were not aware she had stumbled across your profile, but just that day you had garnered up the courage to share your 'secret' with her. On your way home from work, you worked out in your mind just how you were going to approach the subject with her, and were pretty much satisfied things would go smoothly, as you had done your homework gathering information to share with her, and had honest answers to her questions ready. You open the door to find your wife in tears, and on the computer screen your very own Mr. Winky staring at you! Or even worse, coming home to a note from your wife telling you she has taken the kids and left, and the only clue you have as to why is the lonely picture left on the computer screen. Any hope you ever had of getting her back, much less gaining acceptance has just gone down the toilet.
Story sound far fetched? Nope, it actually happens more than you will ever know, because I see the 'other side', the wives coming to me with variations of this exact story, and your wife could be next!
Girls get a CLUE, IF you want your wife to even attempt to understand and learn about what being a crossdresser is all about.....CLEAN UP YOUR ACT! Is this the way you want your wife to see you? Is this the way you want the 'public' to see you? Is this the way you want me to see you, because most likely I have, and believe me it was not a pretty picture.
Remember your profiles either here on TGLife, or other places on the internet are public, anyone and everyone has access to them. IF we want the public, let alone wives or family, to respect and gain acceptance of those who are transgender then each and everyone of us must put our best foot forward and show them you are deserving of their respect.
Portray the lady you are within with respect and dignity.
Dixie
aka Mom
P.S. I challenge each and everyone of you right now to go view your profiles, analyze them as a wife, stranger or even I would. Ask yourself, is this how I want others to see me? Only you can honestly answer that question.
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